kindred spirits
Although rare, I’m glad that once in a while (even once in a full moon), I get too have time out with those rare friends that I feel are quite like me.
Yesterday I had lunch with Patti, a friend from elementary, although our closeness would not be established till our freshman year at college. I haven’t seen her since Feb and well you know what happens to girlfriends when they haven’t seen each other that long…they try to cram every gossip, every monumental experience, etc. In our case we had an hour and a half. We talked about every newsworthy detail, what’s happened to who and what’s happening to her. The one topic that would sink deep into our souls and make us rethink our perspectives though was marriage. We’re 25 and I guess the older we get the more our subconscious pushes that topic to our tongues.
To face the music, Patti and I are both hopeless romantics but the kind that don’t go out there. We’re too afraid to take that risk of embarrassment to have to admit to a guy or make the first move. We’re ideal about everything and even if we’ve bent some of our rules it’s still not enough. I’ve let go of handsome, smart and funny simultaneously. What’s important is he’s Catholic, gives priority to family, still smart and is at least pleasant looking. Still has to have a sense of humor though. I don’t want some stuck up guy that’s completely anal and overly serious. This makes me go back to what my cousin Sam and I had talked about and that was we would eventually find ourselves marrying some guy with “a past.” Someone who isn’t square and boring but is on the way to reformation. Most likely older than us as most boys our age are either square or too cool. Guys that are too cool need things good girls can’t put out and guys that are square make good girls that have swagger age to 100 in no time.
Maybe it requires a little effort from us. Maybe it just doesn’t work to wait for someone so chivalrous to sweep you off your feet and give you a sincere affirmation of their love. Maybe, maybe, maybe. With combined insights from two kindred spirits I don’t think we’ve given up hope yet. We’re still not about to go down that mainstream road that most girls take.
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