There are battles worth fighting for
While I spend most of my days conversing and working with other people it means I spend less time with my natural and comfortable environment. Being the non-confrontational person that I am with those beyond my comfort zone I usually opt to just smile or say it’s okay even at times when it really isn’t. Now I think, is this really the right way to live a Christian life? To say okay and to dismiss everything as forgivable isn’t exactly what Jesus said when he said give your right cheek or love your neighbor or something like that. yes, you have to forgive but you also have to correct them.
At home it’s easy to correct people. My mother, my sister, my third brother…just because these people are the ones I’m closest to but the rest are difficult to correct as well as most of my peers. I’ve definitely come to realize that people see me as nice because I’d rather not argue. Again this is because avoiding confrontation is just easier. I become awkward even when I’m just a spectator in fights and I want to overcome it. It helps no one when just watch idly by or cower in fear should someone push you over or correct your right. It’s not even about gaining power or control in a corporate setting anymore but duty to neighbor. If I was gravely wrong I’d want to be corrected because in the long run who becomes the fool but me? Who is seen as barbaric but me?
I talk about this now because I’ve seen what happens to parental figures who are too comfortable with their styles of passing comments to others BUT the person they are commenting about. It really goes nowhere and makes their children feel worse and want to detach themselves from their parents because they don’t understand the point. It sends out a message that you’re making fun of them rather than asking help from your other children to do the correction. I’ve been subject to this for 25 years and I still don’t understand if I should call it an act of parental neglect/laziness/ lack of care or just plain bullying. I write this now because I want this cycle to end in me.
I want to be able to help my friends grow towards becoming better people through friendly comments. And on the parental aspect of things I never want any of my kids to experience isolation, bewilderment and hurt just because I’m too busy with my favorites to care. Worse is that I just can’t muster up the energy to go through an argument to help them out. Kids are young and in their teens they become angsty. Fact of life and if you didn’t want to handle that you shouldn’t have had any.
Yes, I am angsty but all to remind my future self of responsibilities to come and on a related note I realize how much I love those I choose to fight with. 
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